There’s no knowledge but I know it. I am Master of this College,
What I don’t know–is not knowledge.’
“The ‘First come I’ referred to its being a masque of the College in which fellows, scholars, etc., appeared in order. The short, disconnected sentences were intentional, as being characteristic. Such a line as ‘All that can be known I know it’ (which some newspapers substituted for line 2) would express a rather vulgar, Whewellian foible of omniscience, which was quite foreign to the Master’s nature; the line as originally written was intended to express the rather sad, brooding manner the Master had of giving his oracles, as though he were a spectator of all time and existence, and had penetrated into the mystery of things. Of course, the last line expressed, with necessary exaggeration, what, as a fact, was his attitude to certain subjects in which he refused to be interested, such as modern German metaphysics, philology, and Greek inscriptions.”
When I met the Master in 1887, I was young and he was old; but, whether from insolence or insight, I never felt this difference. I do not think I was a good judge of age, as I have always liked older people than myself; and I imagine it was because of this unconsciousness that we became such wonderful friends. Jowett was younger than half the young people I know now and we understood each other perfectly. If I am hasty in making friends and skip the preface, I always read it afterwards.
A good deal of controversy has arisen over the Master’s claim to greatness by some of the younger generation. It is not denied that Jowett was a man of influence. Men as different as Huxley, Symonds, Lord Lansdowne, Lord Bowen, Lord Milner, Sir Robert Morier and others have told me in reverent and affectionate terms how much they owed to him and to his influence. It is not denied that he was a kind man; infinitely generous, considerate and good about money. It may be denied that he was a fine scholar of the first rank, such as Munro or Jebb, although no one denies his contributions to scholarship; but the real question remains: was he a great man? There are big men, men of intellect, intellectual men, men of talent and men of action; but the great man is difficult to find, and it needs–apart from discernment–a certain greatness to find him. The Almighty is a wonderful handicapper: He will not give us everything. I have never met a woman of supreme beauty with more than a mediocre intellect, by which I do not mean intelligence. There may be some, but I am only writing my own life, and I have not met them. A person of magnetism, temperament and quick intelligence may have neither intellect nor character. I have known one man whose genius lay in his rapid and sensitive understanding, real wit, amazing charm and apparent candour, But whose meanness, ingratitude and instability injured everything he touched. You can only discover ingratitude or instability after years of experience, and few of us, I am glad to think, ever suspect meanness in our fellow-creatures; the discovery is as painful when you find it as the discovery of a worm in the heart of a rose. A man may have a fine character and be taciturn, stubborn and stupid. Another may be brilliant, sunny and generous, but self-indulgent, heartless and a liar. There is no contradiction I have not met with in men and women: the rarest combination is to find fundamental humbleness, freedom from self, intrepid courage and the power to love; when you come upon these, you may be quite sure that you are in the presence of greatness. Human beings are made up of a good many pieces. Nature, character, intellect and temperament: roughly speaking, these headings cover every one. The men and women whom I have loved best have been those whose natures were rich and sweet; but, alas, with a few exceptions, all of them have had gimcrack characters; and the qualities which I have loved in them have been ultimately submerged by self-indulgence.
The present Archbishop of Canterbury is one of these exceptions: he has a sweet and rich nature, a fine temper and is quite unspoilable. I have only one criticism to make of Randall Davidson: he has too much moderation for his intellect; but I daresay he would not have steered the Church through so many shallows if he had not had this attribute. I have known him since I was ten (he christened, confirmed, married and buried us all); and his faith in such qualities of head and heart as I possess has never wavered. He reminds me of Jowett in the soundness of his nature and his complete absence of vanity, although no two men were ever less alike. The first element of greatness is fundamental humbleness (this should not be confused with servility); the second is freedom from self; the third is intrepid courage, which, taken in its widest interpretation, generally goes with truth; and the fourth, the power to love, although I have put it last, is the rarest. If these go to the makings of a great man, Jowett possessed them all. He might have mocked at the confined comprehension of Oxford and exposed the arrogance, vanity and conventionality of the Church; intellectual scorn and even bitterness might have come to him; but, with infinite patience and imperturbable serenity, he preserved his faith in his fellow- creatures.
“There was in him a simple trust in the word of other men that won for him a devotion and service which discipline could never have evoked.” [Footnote:] I read these words in an obituary notice the other day and thought how much I should like to have had them written of me. Whether his criticisms of the Bible fluttered the faith of the flappers in Oxford, or whether his long silences made the undergraduates more stupid than they would otherwise have been, I care little: I only know that he was what I call great and that he had an ennobling influence over my life. He was apprehensive of my social reputation; and in our correspondence, which started directly we parted at Gosford, he constantly gave me wise advice. He was extremely simple-minded and had a pathetic belief in the fine manners, high tone, wide education and lofty example of the British aristocracy. It shocked him that I did not share it; I felt his warnings much as a duck swimming might feel the cluckings of a hen on the bank; nevertheless, I loved his exhortations. In one of his letters he begs me to give up the idea of shooting bears with the Prince of Wales in Russia. It was the first I had heard of it! In another of his letters to me he ended thus:
But I must not bore you with good advice. Child, why don’t you make a better use of your noble gifts? And yet you do not do anything wrong–only what other people do, but with more success. And you are very faithful to your friends. And so, God bless you.
He was much shocked by hearing that I smoked. This is what he says:
What are you doing–breaking a young man’s heart; not the first time nor the second, nor the third–I believe? Poor fellows! they have paid you the highest compliment that a gentleman can pay a lady, and are deserving of all love. Shall I give you a small piece of counsel? It is better for you and a duty to them that their disappointed passions should never be known to a single person, for as you are well aware, one confidante means every body, and the good-natured world, who are of course very jealous of you, will call you cruel and a breaker of hearts, etc. I do not consider this advice, but merely a desire to make you see things as others see them or nearly. The Symonds girls at Davos told me that you smoked!!! at which I am shocked, because it is not the manner of ladies in England. I always imagine you with a long hookah puffing, puffing, since I heard this; give it up, my dear Margaret–it will get you a bad name. Please do observe that I am always serious when I try to make fun. I hope you are enjoying life and friends and the weather: and believe me
Ever yours truly,
B. JOWETT.
He asked me once if I ever told any one that he wrote to me, to which I answered:
“I should rather think so! I tell every railway porter!”
This distressed him. I told him that he was evidently ashamed of my love for him, but that I was proud of it.
JOWETT (after a long silence): “Would you like to have your life written, Margaret?”
MARGOT: “Not much, unless it told the whole truth about me and every one and was indiscreet. If I could have a biographer like Froude or Lord Hervey, it would be divine, as no one would be bored by reading it. Who will you choose to write your life, Master?”
JOWETT: “No one will be in a position to write my life, Margaret.” (For some time he called me Margaret; he thought it sounded less familiar than Margot.)
MARGOT: “What nonsense! How can you possibly prevent it? If you are not very good to me, I may even write it myself!”
JOWETT (smiling): “If I could have been sure of that, I need not have burnt all my correspondence! But you are an idle young lady and would certainly never have concentrated on so dull a subject.”
MARGOT (indignantly): “Do you mean to say you have burnt all George Eliot’s letters, Matthew Arnold’s, Swinburne’s, Temple’s and Tennyson’s?”
JOWETT: “I have kept one or two of George Eliot’s and Florence Nightingale’s; but great men do not write good letters.”
MARGOT: “Do you know Florence Nightingale? I wish I did.”
JOWETT (evidently surprised that I had never heard the gossip connecting his name with Florence Nightingale): “Why do you want to know her?”
MARGOT: “Because she was in love with my friend George Pembroke’s [Footnote: George, Earl of Pembroke, uncle of the present Earl.] father.”
JOWETT (guardedly): “Oh, indeed! I will take you to see her and then you can ask her about all this.”
MARGOT: “I should love that! But perhaps she would not care for me.”
JOWETT: “I do not think she will care for you, but would you mind that?”
MARGOT: “Oh, not at all! I am quite unfemnine in those ways. When people leave the room, I don’t say to myself, “I wonder if they like me,” but, “I wonder if I like them.”
This made an impression on the Master, or I should not have remembered it. Some weeks after this he took me to see Florence Nightingale in her house in South Street. Groups of hospital nurses were waiting outside in the hall to see her. When we went in I noted her fine, handsome, well-bred face. She was lying on a sofa, with a white shawl round her shoulders and, after shaking hands with her, the Master and I sat down. She pointed to the beautiful Richmond print of Sidney Herbert, hanging above her mantelpiece, and said to me:
“I am interested to meet you, as I hear George Pembroke, the son of my old and dear friend, is devoted to you. Will you tell me what he is like?”
I described Lord Pembroke, while Jowett sat in stony silence till we left the house.
One day, a few months after this visit, I was driving in the vicinity of Oxford with the Master and I said to him:
“You never speak of your relations to me and you never tell me whether you were in love when you were young; I have told you so much about myself!”
JOWETT: “Have you ever heard that I was in love with any one?”
I did not like to tell him that, since our visit to Florence Nightingale, I had heard that he had wanted to marry her, so I said:
“Yes, I have been told you were in love once.”
JOWETT: “Only once?”
MARGOT: “Yes.”
Complete silence fell upon us after this: I broke it at last by saying:
“What was your lady-love like, dear Master?”
JOWETT: “Violent . . . very violent.”
After this disconcerting description, we drove back to Balliol.
Mrs. Humphry Ward’s novel “Robert Elsmere” had just been published and was dedicated to my sister Laura and Thomas Hill Green, Jowett’s rival in Oxford. This is what the Master wrote to me about it:
Nov. 28, 1888.
DEAR MISS TENNANT,
I have just finished examining for the Balliol Scholarships: a great institution of which you may possibly have heard. To what shall I liken it? It is not unlike a man casting into the sea a great dragnet, and when it is full of fish, pulling it up again and taking out fishes, good, bad and indifferent, and throwing the bad and indifferent back again into the sea. Among the good fish there have been Archbishop Tait, Dean Stanley, A. H. Clough, Mr. Arnold, Lord Coleridge, Lord Justice Bowen, Mr. Ilbert, &c., &c., &c. The institution was founded about sixty years ago.
I have been dining alone rather dismally, and now I shall imagine that I receive a visit from a young lady about twenty-three years of age, who enlivens me by her prattle. Is it her or her angel? But I believe that she is an angel, pale, volatile and like Laodamia in Wordsworth, ready to disappear at a moment’s notice. I could write a description of her, but am not sure that I could do her justice.
I wish that I could say anything to comfort you, my dear Margot, or even to make you laugh. But no one can comfort another. The memory of a beautiful character is “a joy for ever,” especially of one who was bound to you in ties of perfect amity. I saw what your sister [Footnote: Mrs. Gordon Duff.] was from two short conversations which I had with her, and from the manner in which she was spoken of at Davos.
I send you the book [Footnote: Plato’s Republic] which I spoke of, though I hardly know whether it is an appropriate present; at any rate I do not expect you to read it. It has taken me the last year to revise and, in parts, rewrite it. The great interest of it is that it belongs to a different age of the human mind, in which there is so much like and also unlike ourselves. Many of our commonplaces and common words are being thought out for the first time by Plato. Add to this that in the original this book is the most perfect work of art in the world. I wonder whether it will have any meaning or interest for you.
You asked me once whether I desired to make a Sister of Charity of you. Certainly not (although there are worse occupations); nor do I desire to make anything. But your talking about plans of life does lead me to think of what would be best and happiest for you. I do not object to the hunting and going to Florence and Rome, but should there not be some higher end to which these are the steps? I think that you might happily fill up a great portion of your life with literature (I am convinced that you have considerable talent and might become eminent) and a small portion with works of benevolence, just to keep us in love and charity with our poor neighbours; and the rest I do not grudge to society and hunting. Do you think that I am a hard taskmaster? Not very, I think. More especially as you will not be led away by my good advice. You see that I cannot bear to think of you hunting and ballet-dancing when you are “fair, fat and forty-five.” Do prepare yourself for that awful age.
I went to see Mrs. H. Ward the other day: she insists on doing battle with the reviewer in the Quarterly, and is thinking of another novel, of which the subject will be the free-thinking of honest working-men in Paris and elsewhere. People say that in “Robert Elsmere” Rose is intended for you, Catherine for your sister Laura, the Squire for Mark Pattison, the Provost for me, etc., and Mr. Grey for Professor Green. All the portraits are about equally unlike the originals.
Good-bye, you have been sitting with me for nearly an hour, and now, like Laodamia or Protesilaus, you disappear. I have been the better for your company. One serious word: May God bless you and help you in this and every other great hurt of life.
Ever yours,
B. JOWETT.
I will publish all his letters to me together, as, however delightful letters may be, I find they bore me when they are scattered all through an autobiography.
March 11th, 1889.
MY DEAR MARGARET,
As you say, friendships grow dull if two persons do not care to write to one another. I was beginning to think that you resented my censorious criticisms on your youthful life and happiness.
Can youth be serious without ceasing to be youth? I think it may. The desire to promote the happiness of others rather than your own may be always “breaking in.” As my poor sister (of whom I will talk to you some day) would say: “When others are happy, then I am happy.” She used to commend the religion of Sydney Smith–“Never to let a day pass without doing a kindness to some body”–and I think that you understand something about this; or you would not be so popular and beloved.
You ask me what persons I have seen lately: I doubt whether they would interest you. Mr. Welldon, the Headmaster of Harrow, a very honest and able man with a long life before him, and if he is not too honest and open, not unlikely to be an Archbishop of Canterbury. Mr. J. M. Wilson, Headmaster of Clifton College–a very kind, genial and able man–there is a great deal of him and in him–not a man of good judgment, but very devoted–a first-rate man in his way. Then I have seen a good deal of Lord Rosebery– very able, shy, sensitive, ambitious, the last two qualities rather at war with each other–very likely a future Prime Minister. I like Lady Rosebery too–very sensible and high- principled, not at all inclined to give up her Judaism to please the rest of the world. They are rather overloaded with wealth and fine houses: they are both very kind. I also like Lady Leconfield [Footnote: Lady Leconfield was a sister of Lord Rosebery’s and one of my dearest friends.], whom I saw at Mentone. Then I paid a visit to Tennyson, who has had a lingering illness of six months, perhaps fatal, as he is eighty years of age. It was pleasing to see how he takes it, very patient and without fear of death, unlike his former state of mind. Though he is so sensitive, he seemed to me to bear his illness like a great man. He has a volume of poems waiting to come out–some of them as good as he ever wrote. Was there ever an octogenarian poet before?
Doctor Johnson used to say that he never in his life had eaten as much fruit as he desired. I think I never talked to you as much as I desired. You once told me that you would show me your novel. [Footnote: I began two, but they were not at all clever and have long since disappeared.] Is it a reality or a myth? I should be interested to see it if you like to send me that or any other writing of yours.
“Robert Elsmere,” as the authoress tells me, has sold 60,000 in England and 400,000 in America! It has considerable merit, but its success is really due to its saying what everybody is thinking. I am astonished at her knowing so much about German theology–she is a real scholar and takes up things of the right sort. I do not believe that Mrs. Ward ever said “she had pulverised Christianity.” These things are invented about people by the orthodox, i. e., the infidel world, in the hope that they will do them harm. What do you think of being “laughed to death”? It would be like being tickled to death.
Good-bye,
Ever yours truly,
B. JOWETT.
BALLIOL COLLEGE, May 22nd, 1891.
MY DEAR MARGARET,
It was very good of you to write me such a nice note. I hope you are better. I rather believe in people being able to cure themselves of many illnesses if they are tolerably prudent and have a great spirit.
I liked your two friends who visited me last Sunday, and shall hope to make them friends of mine. Asquith is a capital fellow, and has abilities which may rise to the highest things in the law and politics. He is also very pleasant socially. I like your lady friend. She has both “Sense and Sensibility,” and is free from “Pride and Prejudice.” She told me that she had been brought up by an Evangelical grandmother, and is none the worse for it.
I begin to think bed is a very nice place, and I see a great deal of it, not altogether from laziness, but because it is the only way in which I am able to work.
I have just read the life of Newman, who was a strange character. To me he seems to have been the most artificial man of our generation, full of ecclesiastical loves and hatred. Considering what he really was, it is wonderful what a space he has filled in the eyes of mankind. In speculation he was habitually untruthful and not much better in practice. His conscience had been taken out, and the Church put in its place. Yet he was a man of genius, and a good man in the sense of being disinterested. Truth is very often troublesome, but neither the world nor the individual can get on without it.
Here is the postman appearing at 12 o’clock, as disagreeable a figure as the tax-gatherer.
May you have good sleep and pleasant dreams. I shall still look forward to seeing you with Lady Wemyss.
Believe me always,
Yours affectionately,
B. JOWETT.
BALLIOL COLLEGE, Sep. 8,1892.
MY DEAR MARGARET,
Your kind letter was a very sweet consolation to me. It was like you to think of a friend in trouble.
Poor Nettleship, whom we have lost, was a man who cannot be replaced–certainly not in Oxford. He was a very good man, and had a considerable touch of genius in him. He seems to have died bravely, telling the guides not to be cowards, but to save their lives. He also sang to them to keep them awake, saying (this was so like him) that he had no voice, but that he would do his best. He probably sang that song of Salvator Rosa’s which we have so often heard from him. He was wonderfully beloved by the undergraduates, because they knew that he cared for them more than for anything else in the world.
Of his writings there is not much, except what you have read, and a long essay on Plato in a book called “Hellenism”–very good. He was beginning to write, and I think would have written well. He was also an excellent speaker and lecturer–Mr. Asquith would tell you about him.
I have received many letters about him–but none of them has touched me as much as yours. Thank you, dear.
I see that you are in earnest about writing–no slipshod or want of connection. Writing requires boundless leisure, and is an infinite labour, yet there is also a very great pleasure in it. I shall be delighted to read your sketches.
BALLIOL COLLEGE, Dec. 27th, 1892.
MY DEAR MARGARET,
I have been reading Lady Jeune’s two articles. I am glad that you did not write them and have never written anything of that sort. These criticisms on Society in which some of us “live and move and have our being” are mistaken. In the first place, the whole fabric of society is a great mystery, with which we ought not to take liberties, and which should be spoken of only in a whisper when we compare our experiences, whether in a walk or tete-a-tete, or “over the back hair” with a faithful, reserved confidante. And there is also a great deal that is painful in the absence of freedom in the division of ranks, and the rising or falling from one place in it to another. I am convinced that it is a thing not to be spoken of; what we can do to improve it or do it good– whether I, the head of a college at Oxford, or a young lady of fashion (I know that you don’t like to be called that)–must be done quite silently.
Lady Jeune believes that all the world would go right, or at least be a great deal better, if it were not for the Nouveaux Riches. Some of the Eton masters talk to me in the same way. I agree with our dear friend, Lady Wemyss, that the truth is “the old poor are so jealous of them.” We must study the arts of uniting Society as a whole, not clinging to any one class of it–what is possible and desirable to what is impossible and undesirable.
I hope you are none the worse for your great effort. You know it interests me to hear what you are about if you have time and inclination to write. I saw your friend, Mr. Asquith, last night: very nice and not at all puffed up with his great office [Footnote: The Home Office.]. The fortunes of the Ministry seem very doubtful. There is a tendency to follow Lord Rosebery in the Cabinet. Some think that the Home Rule Bill will be pushed to the second reading, then dropped, and a new shuffle of the cards will take place under Lord Rosebery: this seems to me very likely. The Ministry has very little to spare and they are not gaining ground, and the English are beginning to hate the Irish and the Priests.
I hope that all things go happily with you. Tell me some of your thoughts. I have been reading Mr. Milner’s book with great satisfaction–most interesting and very important. I fear that I have written you a dull and meandering epistle.
Ever yours,
B. JOWETT.
BALLIOL COLLEGE, Feb. 13,1893. MY DEAR MARGARET,
I began at ten minutes to twelve last night to write to you, but as the postman appeared at five minutes to twelve, it was naturally cut short. May I begin where I left off? I should like to talk to you about many things. I hope you will not say, as Johnson says to Boswell, “Sir, you have only two subjects, yourself and me, and I am heartily sick of both.”
I have been delighted with Mr. Asquith’s success. He has the certainty of a great man in him–such strength and simplicity and independence and superiority to the world and the clubs. You seem to me very fortunate in having three such friends as Mr. Asquith, Mr. Milner and Mr. Balfour. I believe that you may do a great deal for them, and they are probably the first men of their time, or not very far short of it.
Mr. Balfour is not so good a leader of the House of Commons in opposition as he was when he was in office. He is too aggressive and not dignified enough. I fear that he will lose weight. He had better not coquette with the foolish and unpractical thing “Bimetallism,” or write books on “Philosophic Doubt”; for there are many things which we must certainly believe, are there not? Quite enough either for the highest idealism or for ordinary life. He will probably, like Sir R. Peel, have to change many of his opinions in the course of the next thirty years and he should be on his guard about this, or he will commit himself in such a manner that he may have to withdraw from politics (about the currency, about the Church, about Socialism).
Is this to be the last day of Gladstone’s life in the House of Commons? It is very pathetic to think of the aged man making his last great display almost in opposition to the convictions of his whole life. I hope that he will acquit himself well and nobly, and then it does not much matter whether or no he dies like Lord Chatham a few days afterwards. It seems to me that his Ministry have not done badly during the last fortnight. They have, to a great extent, removed the impression they had created in England that they were the friends of disorder. Do you know, I cannot help feeling I have more of the Liberal element in me than of the Conservative? This rivalry between the parties, each surprising the other by their liberality, has done a great deal of good to the people of England.
HEADINGTON HILL, near OXFORD, July 30th, 1893.
MY DEAR MARGARET, Did you ever read these lines?–
‘Tis said that marriages are made above– It may be so, some few, perhaps, for love. But from the smell of sulphur I should say They must be making MATCHES here all day.
(Orpheus returning from the lower world in a farce called “The Olympic Devils,” which used to be played when I was young.)
Miss Nightingale talks to me of “the feelings usually called love,” but then she is a heroine, perhaps a goddess.
This love-making is a very serious business, though society makes fun of it, perhaps to test the truth and earnestness of the lovers.
Dear, I am an old man, what the poet calls “on the threshold of old age” (Homer), and I am not very romantic or sentimental about such things, but I would do anything I could to save any one who cares for me from making a mistake.
I think that you are quite right in not running the risk without a modest abode in the country.
The real doubt about the affair is the family; will you consider this and talk it over with your mother? The other day you were at a masqued ball, as you told me–a few months hence you will have, or rather may be having, the care of five children, with all the ailments and miseries and disagreeables of children (unlike the children of some of your friends) and not your own, although you will have to be a mother to them, and this state of things will last during the greatest part of your life. Is not the contrast more than human nature can endure? I know that it is, as you said, a nobler manner of living, but are you equal to such a struggle. If you are, I can only say, “God bless you, you are a brave girl.” But I would not have you disguise from yourself the nature of the trial. It is not possible to be a leader of fashion and to do your duty to the five children.
On the other hand, you have at your feet a man of outstanding ability and high character, and who has attained an extraordinary position–far better than any aristocratic lath or hop-pole; and you can render him the most material help by your abilities and knowledge of the world. Society will be gracious to you because you are a grata persona, and everybody will wish you well because you have made the sacrifice. You may lead a much higher life if you are yourself equal to it.
To-day I read Hume’s life–by himself–very striking. You will find it generally at the beginning of his History of England. There have been saints among infidels too, e.g., Hume and Spinoza, on behalf of whom I think it a duty to say something as the Church has devoted them to eternal flames. To use a German phrase, “They were ‘Christians in unconsciousness.'” That describes a good many people. I believe that as Christians we should get rid of a good many doubtful phrases and speak only through our lives.
Believe me, my dear Margaret,
Yours truly and affectionately,
B. JOWETT.
BALLIOL, Sunday. 1893.
MY DEAR MARGARET,
I quite agree with you that what we want most in life is rest and peace. To act up to our best lights, that is quite enough; there need be no trouble about dogmas, which are hardly intelligible to us, nor ought there to be any trouble about historical facts, including miracles, of which the view of the world has naturally altered in the course of ages. I include in this such questions as whether Our Lord rose from the dead in any natural sense of the words. It is quite a different question, whether we shall imitate Him in His life.
I am glad you think about these questions, and shall be pleased to talk to you about them. What I have to say about religion is contained in two words: Truth and Goodness, but I would not have one without the other, and if I had to choose between them, might be disposed to give Truth the first place. I think, also, that you might put religion in another way, as absolute resignation to the Will of God and the order of nature. There might be other definitions, equally true, but none suited better than another to the characters of men, such as the imitation of Christ, or the truth in all religions, which would be an adequate description of it. The Christian religion seems to me to extend to all the parts and modes of life, and then to come back to our hearts and conscience. I think that the best way of considering it, and the most interesting, is to view it as it may be seen in the lives of good men everywhere, whether Christians or so-called heathens– Socrates, Plato, Marcus Aurelius, St. Augustine, as well as in the lives of Christ, or Bunyan, or Spinoza. The study of religious biography seems to me one of the best modes of keeping up Christian feeling.
As to the question of Disestablishment, I am not like Mr. Balfour, I wobble rather, yet, on the whole, I agree with Mr. Gladstone, certainly about the Welsh Church. Churches are so worldly and so much allied to the interests of the higher classes. I think that a person who belongs to a Church should always endeavour to live above his Church, above the sermon and a good part of the prayer, above the Athanasian Creed, and the form of Ordination, above the passions of party feelings and public meetings. The best individuals have always been better than Churches, though I do not go so far as a German professor, who thinks that people will never be religious until they leave off going to church, yet I am of opinion that in every congregation the hearers should attempt to raise themselves above the tone of the preacher and of the service.
I am sorry to hear that Mr. Balfour, who has so much that is liberal in him, is of an extreme opposite opinion. But I feel that I have talked long enough on a subject which may not interest you, but of which I should like to talk to you again when we meet. It seems to me probable that the Church WILL be disestablished, because it has been so already in most countries of Europe, and because the school is everywhere taking its place.
I shall look forward to your coming to see me, if I am seriously ill–“Be with me when my light is low.” But I don’t think that this illness which I at present have is serious enough to make any of my friends anxious, and it would be rather awkward for my friends to come and take leave of me if I recovered, which I mean to do, for what I think a good reason–because I STILL have a good deal to do.
B. JOWETT.
My beloved friend died in 1893.
The year before his death he had the dangerous illness to which he alludes in the above letter. Every one thought he would die. He dictated farewell letters to all his friends by his secretary and housekeeper, Miss Knight. On receiveing mine from him at Glen, I was so much annoyed at its tone that I wired:
Jowett Balliol College Oxford.
I refuse to accept this as your farewell letter to me you have been listening to some silly woman and believing what she says. Love. MARGOT.
This telegram had a magical effect: he got steadily better and wrote me a wonderful letter. I remember the reason that I was vexed was because he believed a report that I had knocked up against a foreign potentate in Rotten Row for a bet, which was not only untrue but ridiculous, and I was getting a little impatient of the cattishness and credulity of the West-end of London.
My week-ends at Balliol were different to my other visits. The Master took infinite trouble over them. Once on my arrival he asked me which of one or two men I would like to sit next to at dinner. I said I should prefer Mr. Huxley or Lord Bowen, to which he replied:
“I would like you to have on your other side, either to-night or to-morrow, my friend Lord Selborne:” [Footnote: The late Earl of Selborne.]
MARGOT (with surprise): “Since when is he your friend? I was under the impression you disliked him.”
JOWETT: “Your impression was right, but even the youngest of us are sometimes wrong, as Dr. Thompson said, and I look upon Lord Selborne now as a friend. I hope I said nothing against him.”
MARGOT: “Oh dear no! You only said he was fond of hymns and had no sense of humour.”
JOWETT (snappishly): “If that is so, Margaret, I made an extremely foolish remark. I will put you between Lord Bowen and Sir Alfred Lyall. Was it not strange that you should have said of Lyall to Huxley that he reminded you of a faded Crusader and that you suspected him of wearing a coat of mail under his broadcloth, to which you will remember Huxley remarked, ‘You mean a coating of female, without which no man is saved!’ Your sister, Lady Ribblesdale, said the very same thing to me about him.”
This interested me, as Charty and I had not spoken to each other of Sir Alfred Lyall, who was a new acquaintance of ours.
MARGOT: “I am sure, Master, you did not give her the same answer as Mr. Huxley gave me; you don’t think well of my sex, do you?”
JOWETT: “You are not the person to reproach me, Margaret: only the other week I reproved you for saying women were often dull, sometimes dangerous and always dishonourable. I might have added they were rarely reasonable and always courageous. Would you agree to this?”
MARGOT: “Yes.”
I sat between Sir Alfred Lyall and Lord Bowen that night at dinner. There was more bouquet than body about Sir Alfred and, to parody Gibbon, Lord Bowen’s mind was not clouded by enthusiasm; but two more delightful men never existed. After dinner, Huxley came across the room to me and said that the Master had confessed he had done him out of sitting next to me, so would I talk to him? We sat down together and our conversation opened on religion.
There was not much juste milieu about Huxley. He began by saying God was only there because people believed in Him, and that the fastidious incognito, “I am that I am,” was His idea of humour, etc., etc. He ended by saying he did not believe any man of action had ever been inspired by religion. I thought I would call in Lord Bowen, who was standing aimlessly in the middle of the room, to my assistance. He instantly responded and drew a chair up to us. I said to him:
“Mr. Huxley challenges me to produce any man of action who has been directly inspired by religion.”
BOWEN (WITH A SLEEK SMILE): “Between us we should be able to answer him, Miss Tennant, I think. Who is your man?”
Every idea seemed to scatter out of my brain. I suggested at random:
“Gordon.”
I might have been reading his thoughts, for it so happened that Huxley adored General Gordon.
HUXLEY: “Ah! There you rather have me!”
He had obviously had enough of me, for, changing the position of his chair, as if to engage Bowen in a tete-a-tete, he said:
“My dear Bowen, Gordon was the most remarkable man I ever met. I know him well; he was sincere and disinterested, quite incapable of saying anything he did not think. You will hardly believe me, but one day he said in tones of passionate conviction that, if he were to walk round the corner of the street and have his brains shot out, he would only be transferred to a wider sphere of government.”
BOWEN: “Would the absence of brains have been of any help to him?”
After this, our mutual good humour was restored and I only had time for a word with Mrs. Green before the evening was ruined by Jowett taking us across the quad to hear moderate music in the hideous Balliol hall. Of all the Master’s women friends, I infinitely preferred Mrs. T. H. Green, John Addington Symonds’ sister. She is among the rare women who have all the qualities which in moments of disillusion I deny to them.
I spent my last week-end at Balliol when Jowett’s health appeared to have completely recovered. On the Monday morning, after his guests had gone, I went as usual into his study to talk to him. My wire on receiving his death-bed letter had amused but distressed him; and on my arrival he pressed me to tell him what it was he had written that had offended me. I told him I was not offended, only hurt. He asked me what the difference was. I wish I could have given him the answer that my daughter Elizabeth gave Lord Grey [Footnote: Viscount Grey of Fallodon.] when he asked her the same question, walking in the garden at Fallodon on the occasion of her first countryhouse visit:
“The one touches your vanity and the other your heart.”
I do not know what I said, but I told him I was quite unoffended and without touchiness, but that his letter had all the faults of a schoolmaster and a cleric in it and not the love of a friend. He listened to me with his usual patience and sweetness and expressed his regret.
On the Monday morning of which I am writing, and on which we had our last conversation, I had made up my mind that, as I had spoilt many good conversations by talking too much myself, I would hold my tongue and let the Master for once make the first move. I had not had much experience of his classical and devastating silences and had often defended him from the charge; but it was time to see what happened if I talked less.
When we got into the room and he had shut the door, I absently selected the only comfortable chair and we sat down next to each other. A long and quelling silence followed the lighting of my cigarette. Feeling rather at a loose end, I thought out a few stage directions–“here business with handkerchief, etc.”–and adjusted the buckles on my shoes. I looked at some photographs and fingered a paper-knife and odds and ends on the table near me. The oppressive silence continued. I strolled to the book-shelves and, under cover of a copy of “Country Conversations,” peeped at the Master. He appeared to be quite unaware of my existence.
“Nothing doing,” said I to myself, putting back the book.
Something had switched him off as if he had been the electric light.
At last, breaking the silence with considerable impatience, I said:
“Really, Master, there is very little excuse for your silence! Surely you have something to say to me, something to tell me; you have had an experience since we talked to each other that I have never had: you have been near Death.”
JOWETT (not in any way put out): “I felt no rapture, no bliss.” (Suddenly looking at me and taking my hand.) “My dear child, you must believe in God in spite of what the clergy say.”
CHAPTER III
FAST AND FURIOUS HUNTING IN LEICESTERSHIRE–COUNTRY HOUSE PARTY AND A NEW ADMIRER–FRIENDSHIP WITH LORD AND LADY MANNERS
My friendship with Lord and Lady Manners, [Footnote: Avon Tyrrell, Christchurch, Hants. Lady Manners was a Miss Fane.] of Avon Tyrrell, probably made more difference to the course of my life than anything that had happened in it.
Riding was what I knew and cared most about; and I dreamt of High Leicestershire. I had hunted in Cheshire, where you killed three foxes a day and found yourself either clattering among cottages and clothes-lines, or blocked by carriages and crowds; I knew the stiff plough and fine horses of Yorkshire and the rotten grass in the Bicester; I had struggled over the large fences and small enclosures of the Grafton and been a heroine in the select fields and large becks with the Burton; and the Beaufort had seen the dawn of my fox-hunting; but Melton was a name which brought the Hon. Crasher before me and opened a vista on my future of all that was fast, furious and fashionable.
When I was told that I was going to sit next to the Master of the Quorn at dinner, my excitement knew no bounds.
Gordon Cunard–whose brother Bache owned the famous hounds in Market Harborough–had insisted on my joining him at a country- house party given for a ball. On getting the invitation I had refused, as I hardly knew our hostess–the pretty Mrs. Farnham– but after receiving a spirited telegram from my new admirer–one of the best men to hounds in Leicestershire–I changed my mind. In consequence of this decision a double event took place. I fell in love with Peter Flower–a brother of the late Lord Battersea–and formed an attachment with a couple whose devotion and goodness to me for more than twenty years encouraged and embellished my glorious youth.
Lord Manners, or “Hoppy,” as we called him, was one of the few men I ever met whom the word “single-minded” described. His sense of honour was only equalled by his sense of humour; and a more original, tender, truthful, uncynical, real being never existed. He was a fine sportsman and had won the Grand Military when he was in the Grenadiers, riding one of his own hunters; he was also the second gentleman in England to win the Grand National in 1882, on a thoroughbred called Seaman, who was by no means every one’s horse. For other people he cared nothing. “Decidement je n’aime pas les autres,” he would have said, to quote my son-in-law, Antoine Bibesco.
His wife often said that, but for her, he would not have asked a creature inside the house; be this as it may, no host and hostess could have been more socially susceptible or given their guests a warmer welcome than Con and Hoppy Manners.
What I loved and admired in him was his keenness and his impeccable unworldliness. He was perfectly independent of public opinion and as free from rancour as he was from fear, malice or acerbity. He never said a stupid thing. Some people would say that this is not a compliment, but the amount of silly things that I have heard clever people say makes me often wonder what is left for the stupid.
His wife was very different, though quite as free from rhetoric.
Under a becalmed exterior Con Manners was a little brittle and found it difficult to say she was in the wrong; this impenitence caused some of her lovers a suffering of which she was unconscious; it is a minor failing which strikes a dumb note in me, but which I have since discovered is not only common, but almost universal. I often warned people of Con’s dangerous smile when I observed them blundering along; but though she was uneven in her powers of forgiveness, the serious quarrel of her life was made up ultimately without reserve. Lady Manners was clever, gracious, and understanding; she was more worldly, more adventurous and less deprecating than her husband; people meant a great deal to her; and the whole of London was at her feet, except those lonely men and women who specialise in collecting the famous as men collect centipedes.
To digress here. I asked my friend Mr. Birrell once how the juste milieu was to be found–for an enterprising person–between running after the great men of the day and missing them; and he said:
“I would advise you to live among your superiors, Margot, but to be of them.”
Con was one of the few women of whom it could be said that she was in an equal degree a wonderful wife, mother, sister and friend. Her charm of manner and the tenderness of her regard gave her face beauty that was independent–almost a rival of fine features–and she was a saint of goodness.
Her love of flowers made every part of her home, inside and out, radiant; and her sense of humour and love of being entertained stimulated the witty and the lazy.
For nineteen years I watched her go about her daily duties with a quiet grace and serenity infinitely restful to live with, and when I was separated from her it nearly broke my heart. In connection with the love Con and I had for each other I will only add an old French quotation:
“Par grace infinie Dieu les mist au mande ensemble.”
My dear friend, Mrs. Hamlyn, was the chatelaine of the famous Clovelly, in Devonshire, and was Con’s sister. She had the spirit of eternal youth and was full of breathless admiration. I hardly ever met any one who derived so much pleasure and surprise out of ordinary life. She was as uncritical and tolerant of those she loved as she was narrow and vehement over those who had unaccountably offended her. She had an ebullient and voracious sense of humour and was baffled and eblouie by titled people, however vulgar and ridiculous they might be. By this I do not mean she was a snob–on the contrary she made and kept friends among the frumps and the obscure, to whom she showed faithful hospitality; but she was old-fashioned and thought that all duchesses were ladies.
Christine Hamlyn was a character-part: but, if the machinery was not invented by which you could remove her prejudices, no tank could turn her from her friends. It was through the Souls and these friends whom I have endeavoured to describe that I entered into a new phase of my life.
CHAPTER IV
MARGOT FALLS IN LOVE AGAIN–“HAVOC” IN THE HUNTING FIELD; A FALL AND A DUCKING–THE FAMOUS MRS. BO; UNHEEDED ADVICE FROM A RIVAL–A LOVERS’ QUARREL–PETER JUMPS IN THE WINDOW–THE AMERICAN TROTTER– ANOTHER LOVER INTERVENES–PETER RETURNS FROM INDIA; ILLUMINATION FROM A DARK WOMAN
The first time I ever saw Peter Flower was at Ranelagh, where he had taken my sister Charty Ribblesdale to watch a polo-match. They were sitting together at an iron table, under a cedar tree, eating ices. I was wearing a grey muslin dress with a black sash and a black hat, with coral beads round my throat, and heard him say as I came up to them:
“Nineteen? Not possible! I should have said fifteen! Is that the one that rides so well?”
After shaking hands I sat down and looked about me.
I always notice what men wear; and Peter Flower was the best- dressed man I had ever seen. I do not know who could have worn his clothes when they were new; but certainly he never did. After his clothes, what I was most struck by was his peculiar, almost animal grace, powerful sloping shoulders, fascinating laugh and infectious vitality.
Laurence Oliphant once said to me, “I divide the world into life- givers and life-takers”; and I have often had reason to feel the truth of this, being as I am acutely sensitive to high spirits. On looking back along the gallery of my acquaintance, I can find not more than three or four people as tenacious of life as Peter was: Lady Desborough, Lady Cunard, my son Anthony and myself. There are various kinds of high spirits: some so crude and rough-tongued that they vitiate what they touch and estrange every one of sensibility and some so insistent that they tire and suffocate you; but Peter’s vitality revived and restored every one he came in contact with; and, when I said good-bye to him that day at Ranelagh, although I cannot remember a single sentence of any interest spoken by him or by me, my mind was absorbed in thinking of when and how I could meet him again.
In the winter of that same year I went with the Ribblesdales to stay with Peter’s brother, Lord Battersea, to have a hunt. I took with me the best of hats and habits and two leggy and faded hirelings, hoping to pick up a mount. Charty having twisted her knee the day after we arrived, this enabled me to ride the horse on which Peter was to have mounted her; and full of spirits we all went off to the meet of the Bicester hounds. I had hardly spoken three words to my benefactor, but Ribblesdale had rather unwisely told him that I was the best rider to hounds in England.
At the meet I examined my mount closely while the man was lengthening my stirrup. Havoc, as he was called, was a dark chestnut, 16.1, with a coat like the back of a violin and a spiteful little head. He had an enormous bit on; and I was glad to see a leather strap under the curb-chain.
When I was mounted, Peter kept close to my side and said:
“You’re on a topper! Take him where you like, but ride your own line.”
To which I replied:
“Why? Does he rush? I had thought of following you.”
PETER: “Not at all, but he may pull you a bit, so keep away from the field; the fence isn’t made that he can’t jump; and as for water, he’s a swallow! I wish I could say the same of mine! We’ve got a brook round about here with rotten banks, it will catch the best! But, if we are near each other, you must come alongside and go first and mine will very likely follow you. I don’t want to spend the night in that beastly brook.”
It was a good scenting day and we did not take long to find. I stuck to Peter Flower while the Bicester hounds raced across the heavy grass towards a hairy-looking ugly double. In spite of the ironmonger’s shop in Havoc’s mouth, I had not the faintest control over him, so I said to Peter:
“You know, Mr. Flower, I can’t stop your horse!”
He looked at me with a charming smile and said:
“But why should you? Hounds are running!”
MARGOT: “But I can’t turn him!”
PETER: “It doesn’t matter! They are running straight. Hullo! Lookout! Look out for Hydy!”
We were going great guns. I saw a man in front of me slowing up to the double, so shouted at him:
“Get out of my way! Get out of my way!”
I was certain that at the pace he was going he would take a heavy fall and I should be on the top of him. While in the act of turning round to see who it was that was shouting, his willing horse paused and I shot past him, taking away his spur in my habit skirt. I heard a volley of oaths as I jumped into the jungle. Havoc, however, did not like the brambles and, steadying himself as he landed, arched with the activity of a cat over a high rail on the other side of the double; I turned round and saw Peter’s horse close behind me hit the rail and peck heavily upon landing, at which Peter gave him one down the shoulder and looked furious.
I had no illusions! I was on a horse that nothing could stop! Seeing a line of willows in front of me, I shouted to Peter to come along, as I thought if the brook was ahead of us I could not possibly keep close to him, going at that pace. To my surprise and delight, as we approached the willows Peter passed me and the water widened out in front of us; I saw by his set face that it was neck or nothing with him. Havoc was going well within himself, but his stable-companion was precipitate and flurried; and before I knew what had happened Peter was in the middle of the brook and I was jumping over his head. On landing I made a large circle round the field away from hounds, trying to pull up; and when I could turn round I found myself facing the brook again, with Peter dripping on the bank nearest to me. Havoc pricked his ears, passed him like a flash and jumped the brook again; but the bank on landing was boggy and while we were floundering I got a pull at him by putting the curb-rein under my pommel and, exhausted and distressed, I jumped off. Peter burst out laughing.
“We seem to be separated for life,” he said. “Do look at my damned horse!”
I looked down the water and saw the animal standing knee-deep, nibbling grass and mud off the bank with perfect composure.
MARGOT: “I really believe Havoc would jump this brook for a third time and then I should be by your side. What luck that you aren’t soaked to the skin; hadn’t I better look out for the second horsemen? Hounds by now will be at the sea and I confess I can’t ride your horse: does he always pull like this?”
PETER: “Yes, he catches hold a bit, but what do you mean? You rode him beautifully. Hullo! What is that spur doing in your skirt?”
MARGOT: “I took it off the man that you call ‘Hydy,’ who was going so sticky at the double when we started.”
PETER: “Poor old Clarendon! I advise you to keep his spur, he’ll never guess who took it; and, if I know anything about him, there will be no love lost between you even if you do return it to him!”
I was longing for another horse, as I could not bear the idea of going home. At that moment a single file of second horse-men came in sight; and Peter’s well-trained servant, on a thoroughbred grey, rode up to us at the conventional trot. Peter lit a cigar and, pointing to the brook, said to his man:
“Go off and get a rope and hang that brute! Or haul him out, will you? And give me my lunch.”
We were miles away from any human habitation and I felt depressed.
“Perhaps I had better ride home with your man,” said I, looking tentatively at Peter.
“Home! What for?” said he.
MARGOT: “Are you sure Havoc is not tired?”
PETER: “I wish to God he was! But I daresay this infernal Bicester grass, which is heavier than anything I saw in Yorkshire, has steadied him a bit; you’ll see he’ll go far better with you this afternoon. I’m awfully sorry and would put you on my second horse, but it isn’t mine and I’m told it’s got a bit of a temper; if you go through that gate we’ll have our lunch together. …Have a cigarette?”
I smiled and shook my head; my mouth was as dry as a Japanese toy and I felt shattered with fatigue. The ground on which I was standing was deep and I was afraid of walking in case I should leave my boots in it, so I tapped the back of Havoc’s fetlocks till I got him stretched and with great skill mounted myself. This filled Peter with admiration; and, lifting his hat, he said:
“Well! You are the very first woman I ever saw mount herself without two men and a boy hanging on to the horse’s head.”
I rode towards the gate and Peter joined me a few minutes later on his second horse. He praised my riding and promised he would mount me any day in the week if I could only get some one to ask me down to Brackley where he kept his horses; he said the Grafton was the country to hunt in and that, though Tom Firr, the huntsman of the Quorn, was the greatest man in England, Frank Beers was hard to beat. I felt pleased at his admiration for my riding, but I knew Havoc had not turned a hair and that, if I went on hunting, I should kill either myself, Peter or some one else.
“Aren’t you nervous when you see a helpless woman riding one of your horses?” I said to him.
PETER: “No, I am only afraid she’ll hurt my horse! I take her off pretty quick, I can tell you, if I think she’s going to spoil my sale; but I never mount a woman. Your sister is a magnificent rider, or I would never have put her on that horse. Now come along and with any luck you will be alone with hounds this afternoon and Havoc will be knocked down at Tattersalls for five hundred guineas.”
MARGOT: “You are sure you want me to go on?”
PETER: “You think I want you to go home? Very well! If you go…_I_ go!”
I longed to have the courage to say, “Let us both go home,” but I knew he would think that I was funking and it was still early in the day. He looked at me steadily and said:
“I will do exactly what you like.”
I looked at him, but at that moment the hounds came in sight and my last chance was gone. We shogged along to the next cover, Havoc as mild as milk. I was amazed at Peter’s nerve: if any horse of mine had taken such complete charge of its rider, I should have been in a state of anguish till I had separated them; but he was riding along talking and laughing in front of me in the highest of spirits. This lack of sensitiveness irritated me and my heart sank. Before reaching the cover, Peter came up to me and suggested that we should change Havoc’s bit. I then perceived he was not quite so happy as I thought; and this determined me to stick it out. I thanked him demurely and added, with a slight and smiling shrug:
“I fear no bit can save me to-day, thank you.”
At which Peter said with visible irritability:
“Oh, for God’s sake then don’t let us go on! If you hate my horse I vote we go no farther!”
“What a cross man!” I said to myself, seeing him flushed and snappy; but a ringing “Halloa!” brought our deliberations to an abrupt end.
Havoc and I shot down the road, passing the blustering field; and, hopping over a gap, we found ourselves close to the hounds, who were running hell-for-leather towards a handsome country seat perched upon a hill. A park is what I hate most out hunting: hounds invariably lose the line, the field loses its way and I lose my temper.
I looked round to see if my benefactor was near me, but he was nowhere to be seen. Eight or ten hard riders were behind me; they shouted:
“Don’t go into the wood! Turn to your left! Don’t go into the wood!”
I saw a fancy gate of yellow polished oak in front of me, at the end of one of the grass rides in the wood, and what looked like lawns beyond. I was unable to turn to the left with my companions, but plunged into the trees where the hounds paused: not so Havoc, who, in spite of the deep ground, was still going great guns. A lady behind me, guessing what had happened, left her companions and managed somehow or other to pass me in the ride; and, as I approached the yellow gate, she was holding it open for me. I shouted my thanks to her and she shouted back:
“Get off when you stop!”
This was my fixed determination, as I had observed that Havoc’s tongue was over the bit and he was not aware that any one was on his back, nor was he the least tired and no doubt would have jumped the yellow gate with ease.
After leaving my saviour I was joined by my former companions. The hounds had picked up again and we left the gate, the wood and the country seat behind us. Still going very strong, we all turned into a chalk field with a white road sunk between two high banks leading down to a ford. I kept on the top of the bank, as I was afraid of splashing people in the water, if not knocking them down. Two men were standing by the fence ahead, which separated me from what appeared to be a river; and I knew there must be a considerable drop in front of me. They held their hands up in warning as I came galloping up; I took my foot out of the stirrup and dropping my reins gave myself up for lost, but in spite of Havoc slowing up he was going too fast to stop or turn. He made a magnificent effort, but I saw the water twinkling below me; and after that I knew no more.
When I came to, I was lying on a box bed in a cottage, with Peter and the lady who had held the yellow gate kneeling by my side.
“I think you are mad to put any one on that horse!” I heard her say indignantly. “You know how often it has changed hands; and you yourself can hardly ride it.”
Havoc had tried to scramble down the bank, which luckily for me had not been immediately under the fence, but it could not be done, so we took a somersault into the brook, most alarming for the people in the ford to see. However, as the water was deep where I landed, I was not hurt, but had fainted from fear and exhaustion.
Peter’s misery was profound; ice-white and in an agony of fear, he was warming my feet with both his hands while I watched him quietly. I was taken home in a brougham by my kind friend, who turned out to be Mrs. Bunbury, a sister of John Watson, the Master of the Meath hounds, and the daughter of old Mr. Watson, the Master of the Carlow and the finest rider to hounds in England.
This was how Peter and I first came really to know each other; and after that it was only a question of time when our friendship developed into a serious love-affair. I stayed with Mrs. Bunbury in the Grafton country that winter for several weeks and was mounted by every one.
As Peter was a kind of hero in the hunting field and had never been known to mount a woman, I was the object of much jealousy. The first scene in my life occurred at Brackley, where he and a friend of his, called Hatfield Harter, shared a hunting box together.
There was a lady of charm and beauty in the vicinity who went by the name of Mrs. Bo. They said she had gone well to hounds in her youth, but I had never observed her jump a twig. She often joined us when Peter and I were changing horses and once or twice had ridden home with us. Peter did not appear to like her much, but I was too busy to notice this one way or the other. One day I said to him I thought he was rather snubby to her and added:
“After all, she must have been a very pretty woman when she was young and I don’t think it’s nice of you to show such irritation when she joins us.”
PETER: “Do you call her old?”
MARGOT: “Well, oldish I should say. She must be over thirty, isn’t she?”
PETER: “Do you call that old?”
MARGOT: “I don’t know! How old are you, Peter?”
PETER: “I shan’t tell you.”
One day I rode back from hunting, having got wet to the skin. I had left the Bunbury brougham in Peter’s stables but I did not like to go back in wet clothes; so, after seeing my horse comfortably gruelled, I walked up to the charming lady’s house to borrow dry clothes. She was out, but her maid gave me a coat and skirt, which–though much too big–served my purpose.
After having tea with Peter, who was ill in bed, I drove up to thank the lady for her clothes. She was lying on a long, thickly pillowed couch, smoking a cigarette in a boudoir that smelt of violets. She greeted me coldly; and I was just going away when she threw her cigarette into the fire and, suddenly sitting very erect, said:
“Wait! I have something to say to you.”
I saw by the expression on her face that I had no chance of getting away, though I was tired and felt at a strange disadvantage in my flowing skirts.
MRS. BO: “Does it not strike you that going to tea with a man who is in bed is a thing no one can do?”
MARGOT: “Going to see a man who is ill? No, certainly not!”
MRS. BO: “Well, then let me tell you for your own information how it will strike other people. I am a much older woman than you and I warn you, you can’t go on doing this sort of thing! Why should you come down here among all of us who are friends and make mischief and create talk?”
I felt chilled to the bone and, getting up, said:
“I think I had better leave you now, as I am tired and you are angry.”
MRS. BO (standing up and coming very close to me): “Do you not know that I would nurse Peter Flower through yellow fever! But, though I have lived next door to him these last three years, I would never dream of doing what you have done to-day.”
The expression on her face was so intense that I felt sorry for her and said as gently as I could:
“I do not see why you shouldn’t! Especially if you are all such friends down here as you say you are. However, every one has a different idea of what is right and wrong. …I must go now!”
I was determined not to stay a moment longer and walked to the door, but she had lost her head and said in a hard, bitter voice:
“You say every one has a different idea of right and wrong, but I should say you have none!”
At this I left the room.
When I told Mrs. Bunbury what had happened, all she said was:
“Cat! She’s jealous! Before you came down here, Peter Flower was in love with her.”
This was a great shock to me and I determined I would leave the Grafton country, as I had already been away far too long from my own people; so I wrote to Peter saying I was sorry not to say good-bye to him, but that I had to go home. The next day was Sunday. I got my usual love-letter from Peter–who, whether I saw him or not, wrote daily–telling me that his temperature had gone up again and that he would give me his two best horses on Monday, as he was not allowed to leave his room. After we had finished lunch, Peter turned up, looking ill and furious. Mrs. Bunbury greeted him sweetly and said:
“You ought to be in bed, you know; but, since you ARE here, I’ll leave Margot to look after you while Jacky and I go round the stables.”
When we were left to ourselves, Peter, looking at me, said:
“Well! I’ve got your letter! What is all this about? Don’t you know there are two horses coming over from Ireland this week which I want you particularly to ride for me?”
I saw that he was thoroughly upset and told him that I was going home, as I had been already too long away.
“Have your people written to you?” he said.
MARGOT: “They always write. …”
PETER: (seeing the evasion): “What’s wrong?”
MARGOT: “What do you mean?”
PETER: “You know quite well that no one has asked you to go home. Something has happened; some one has said something to you; you’ve been put out. After all it was only yesterday that we were discussing every meet; and you promised to give me a lurcher. What has happened since to change you?”
MARGOT: “Oh, what does it matter? I can always come down here again later on.”
PETER: “How wanting in candour you are! You are not a bit like what I thought you were!”
MARGOT (sweetly): “No …?”
PETER: “Not a bit! You are a regular woman. I thought differently of you somehow!”
MARGOT: “You thought I was a dog-fancier or a rough-rider, did you, with a good thick skin?”
PETER: “I fail to understand you! Are you alluding to the manners of my horses?”
MARGOT: “No, to your friends.”
PETER: “Ah! Ah! Nous y sommes! … How can you be so childish! What did Mrs. Bo say to you?”
MARGOT: “Oh, spare me from going into your friends’ affairs!”
PETER (flushed with temper, but trying to control himself): “What does it matter what an old woman says whose nose has been put out of joint in the hunting-field?”
MARGOT: “You told me she was young.”
PETER: “What an awful lie! You said she was pretty and I disagreed with you.” Silence. “What did she say to you? I tell you she is jealous of you in the hunting-field!”
MARGOT: “No, she’s not; she’s jealous of me in your bedroom and says I don’t know right from wrong.”
PETER (startled at first and then bursting out laughing): “There’s nothing very original about that!”
MARGOT (indignantly): “Do you mean to say that it’s a platitude? And that I DON’T know right from wrong?”
PETER (taking my hands and kissing them with a sigh of intense relief): “I wonder!”
MARGOT (getting up): “Well, after that, nothing will induce me to stay down here or ride any of your horses ever again! No regiment of soldiers will keep me!”
PETER: “Really, darling, how can you be so foolish! Who would ever think it wrong to go and see a poor devil ill in bed! You had to ride my horse back to its stable and it was your duty to come and ask after me and thank me for all my kindness to you and the good horses I’ve put you on!”
MARGOT: “Evidently in this country I am not wanted, Mrs. Bo said so; and you ought to have warned me you were in love with her. You said I was not the woman you thought I was: well, I can say the same of you!”
At this Peter got up and all his laughter disappeared.
“Do you mean what you say? Is this the impression you got from talking to Mrs. Bo?”
MARGOT: “Yes.”
PETER: “In that case I will go and see her and ask her which of the two of you is lying! If it’s you, you needn’t bother yourself to leave this country, for I shall sell my horses. …I wish to God I had never met you!”
I felt very uncomfortable and unhappy, as in my heart I knew that Mrs. Bo had never said Peter was in love with her; she had not alluded to his feelings for her at all. I got up to stop him leaving the room and put myself in front of the door.
MARGOT: “Really, why make scenes! There is nothing so tiring; and you know quite well you are ill and ought to go to bed. Is there any object in going round the country discussing me?”
PETER: “Just go away, will you? I’m ill and want to get off.”
I did not move; I saw he was white with rage. The idea of going round the country talking about me was more than he could bear; so I said, trying to mollify him:
“If you want to discuss me, I am always willing to listen; there is nothing I enjoy so much as talking about myself.”
It was too late. All he said to me was:
“Do you mind leaving that door? You tire me and it’s getting dark.”
MARGOT: “I will let you go, but promise me you won’t go to Mrs. Bo to-day; or, if you DO, tell me what you are going to say to her first.”
PETER: “You’ve never told me yet what she said to you, except that I was in love with her, so why should I tell you what I propose saying to her! For once you cannot have it all your own way. You are SO spoilt since you’ve been down here that…”
I flung the door wide open and, before he could finish his sentence, ran up to my room.
Peter was curiously upsetting to the feminine sense; he wanted to conceal it and to expose it at the same time, under the impression it might arouse my jealousy. He was specially angry with me for dancing with King Edward, then the Prince of Wales. I told him that if he would learn to waltz instead of prance I would dance with him, but till he did I should choose my own partners. Over this we had a great row; and, after sitting out two dances with the Prince, I put on my cloak and walked round to 40 Grosvenor Square without saying good night to Peter. I was in my dressing- gown, with my hair–my one claim to beauty–standing out all round my head, when I heard a noise in the street and, looking down, I saw Peter standing on the wall of our porch gazing across an angle of the area into the open window of our library, contemplating, I presumed, jumping into it; I raced downstairs to stop this dangerous folly, but I was too late and, as I opened the library-door, he had given a cat-like spring, knocking a flower- pot down into the area, and was by my side. I lit two candles on the writing-table and scolded him for his recklessness. He told me had made a great deal of money by jumping from a stand on to tables and things and once he had won L500 by jumping on to a mantelpiece when the fire was burning. As we were talking I heard voices in the area; Peter, with the instinct of a burglar, instantly lay flat on the floor behind the sofa, his head under the valance of the chintz, and I remained at the writing-table, smoking my cigarette; this was all done in a second. The door opened; I looked round and was blinded by the blaze of a bull’s- eye lantern. When it was removed from my face, I saw two policemen, an inspector and my father’s servant. I got up slowly and, with my head in the air, sat upon the arm of the sofa, blocking the only possibility of Peter’s full length being seen.
MARGOT (with great dignity): “Is this a practical joke?”
INSPECTOR (coolly): “Not at all, madam, but it is only right to tell you a hansom cabman informed us that, as he was passing this house a few minutes ago, he saw a man jump into that window.”
He walked away from me and, holding his lantern over the area, peered down and saw the broken flower-pot. I knew lying was more than useless and, as the truth had always served me well, I said, giving my father’s servant, who looked sleepy, a heavy kick on the instep:
“That is quite true; a friend of mine DID jump in at that window, about a quarter of an hour ago; but (looking down with a sweet an modest smile) he was not a burglar …”
HENRY HILL (my father’s servant): “How often I’ve told you, miss, that, as long as Master Edward loses his latch-keys, there is nothing to be done and something is bound to happen! One day he will not only lose the latch-key, but his life.”
INSPECTOR: “I’m sorry to have frightened you, madam, I will now take down your names …”
MARGOT (anxiously): “Oh, I see, you have to report it in the police news, have you? Has the cabman given you his name? He ought to be rewarded, he might have saved us all!”
I felt that I could have strangled the cabman, but, collecting myself, took one candle off the writing-table and, blowing the other out, led the way to the library-door, saying slowly:
“Margaret… Emma… Alice Tennant. Do I have to add my occupation?”
INSPECTOR (busily writing in a small note-book): “No, thank you.” (Turning to Hill) “Your name, please.”
My father’s servant was thoroughly roused and I regretted my kick when in a voice of thunder he said:
“Henry Hastings Appleby Hill.”
I felt quite sure that my father would appear over the top of the stair and then all would be over; but, by the fortune that follows the brave, perfect silence reigned throughout the house. I walked slowly away, while Hill led the three policemen into the hall. When the front door had been barred and bolted, I ran down the back stairs and said, smiling brightly:
“I shall tell my father all about this! You did very well; good night, Hill.”
When the coast was clear, I returned to the library with my heart beating and shut the door. Peter had disentangled himself from the sofa and was taking fluff off his coat with an air of happy disengagement; I told him with emphasis that I was done for, that my name would be ringing in the police news next day and that I was quite sure by the inspector’s face that he knew exactly what had happened; that all this came from Peter’s infernal temper, idiotic jealousy and complete want of self-control. Agitated and eloquent, I was good for another ten minutes’ abuse; but he interrupted me by saying, in his most caressing manner:
“The inspector is all right, my dear! He is a friend of mine! I wouldn’t have missed this for the whole world: you were magnificent! Which shall we reward, the policeman, the cabman or Hill?”
MARGOT: “Don’t be ridiculous! What do you propose doing?”
PETER (trying to kiss my hands which I had purposely put behind my back): “I propose having a chat with Inspector Wood and then with Hastings Appleby.”
MARGOT: “How do you know Inspector Wood, as you call him?”
PETER: “He did a friend of mine a very good turn once.”
MARGOT: “What sort of turn?”
PETER: “Sugar Candy insulted me at the Turf and I was knocking him into a jelly in Brick Street, when Wood intervened and saved his life. I can assure you he would do anything in the world for me and I’ll make it all right! He shall have a handsome present.”
MARGOT: “How vulgar! Having a brawl in Brick Street! How did you come to be in the East-end?”
PETER: “East-end! Why, it’s next to Down Street, out of Piccadilly.”
MARGOT: “It’s very wrong to bribe the police, Peter!”
PETER: “I’m not going to bribe him, governess! I’m going to give him my Airedale terrier.”
MARGOT: “What! That brute that killed the lady’s lap-dog?”
PETER: “The very same!”
MARGOT: “God help poor Wood!”
Peter was so elated with this shattering escapade that a week after–on the occasion of another row, in which I pointed out that he was the most selfish man in the world–I heard him whistling under my bedroom window at midnight. Afraid lest he should wake my parents, I ran down in my dressing-gown to open the front door, but nothing would induce the chain to move. It was a newly acquired habit of the servants, started by Henry Hill from the night he had barred out the police. Being a hopeless mechanic and particularly weak in my fingers, I gave it up and went to the open window in the library. I begged him to go away, as nothing would induce me to forgive him, and I told him that my papa had only just retired to bed.
Peter, unmoved, ordered me to take the flower-pots off the window-sill, or he would knock them down and make a horrible noise, which would wake the whole house. After I had refused to do this, he said he would very likely break his neck when he jumped, as clearing the pots would mean hitting his head against the window frame. Fearing an explosion of temper, I weakly removed the flower-pots and watched his acrobatic feat with delight.
We had not been talking on the sofa for more than five minutes when I heard a shuffle of feet outside the library-door. I got up with lightning rapidity and put out the two candles on the writing-table with the palms of my hands, returning noiselessly to Peter’s side on the sofa, where we sat in black darkness, The door opened and my father came in holding a bedroom candle in his hand; he proceeded to walk stealthily round the room, looking at his pictures. The sofa on which we were sitting was in the window and had nothing behind it but tile curtains. He held his candle high and close to every picture in turn and, putting his head forward, scanned them with tenderness and love. I saw Peter’s idiotic hat and stick under the Gainsborough and could not resist nudging him as “The Ladies Erne and Dillon” were slowly approached. A candle held near one’s face is the most blinding of all things and, after inspecting the sloping shoulders and anaemic features of the Gainsborough ladies, my father, quietly humming to himself, returned to his bed.
Things did not always go so smoothly with us. One night Peter suggested that I should walk away with him from the ball and try an American trotter which had been lent to him by a friend. As it was a glorious night, I thought it might be rather fun, so we walked down Grosvenor Street into Park Lane; and there stood the buggy under a lamp. American trotters always appear to be misshapen; they are like coloured prints that are not quite in drawing and have never attracted me.
After we had placed ourselves firmly in the rickety buggy, Peter said to the man as he took the reins:
“Let him go, please!”
And go he did, with a curious rapid, swaying waddle. There was no traffic and we turned into the Edgware Road towards Hendon at a great pace, but Peter was a bad driver and after a little time said his arms ached and he thought it was time the “damned” horse was made to stop.
“I’m told the only way to stop an American trotter,” said he, “is to hit him over the head.” At this I took the whip out of the socket and threw it into the road.
Peter, maddened by my action, shoved the reins into my hands, saying he would jump out. I did not take the smallest notice of this threat, but slackened the reins, after which we went quite slowly. I need hardly say Peter did not jump out, but suggested with severity that we should go back and look for the whip.
This was the last thing I intended to do, so when we turned I leant back in my seat and tugged at the trotter with all my might, and we flew home without uttering a single word.
I was an excellent driver, but that night had taxed all my powers and, when we pulled up at the corner of Grosvenor Square, I ached in every limb. We were not in the habit of arriving together at the front door; and after he had handed me down to the pavement I felt rather awkward: I had no desire to break the silence, but neither did I want to take away Peter’s coat, which I was wearing, so I said tentatively:
“Shall I give you your covert-coat?”
PETER: “Don’t be childish! How can you walk back to the front door in your ball-dress? If any one happened to be looking out of the window, what would they think?”
This was really more than I could bear. I wrenched off his coat and placing it firmly on his arm, said:
“Most people, if they are sensible, are sound asleep at this time of the night, but I thank you all the same for your consideration.”
We turned testily away from each other and I walked home alone. When I reached our front door my father opened it and, seeing me in my white tulle dress, was beside himself with rage. He asked me if I would kindly explain what I was doing, walking in the streets in my ball-dress at two in the morning. I told him exactly what had happened and warned him soothingly never to buy an American trotter; he told me that my reputation was ruined, that his was also and that my behaviour would kill my mother; I put my arms round his neck, told him soothingly that I had not really enjoyed myself AT ALL and promised him that I would never do it again. By this time my mother had come out of her bedroom and was leaning over the staircase in her dressing-gown. She said in a pleading voice:
“Pray do not agitate yourself, Charlie. You’ve done a very wrong action, Margot! You really ought to have more consideration for your father: no one knows how impressionable he is. … Please tell Mr. Flower that we do not approve of him at all! …”
MARGOT: “You are absolutely right, dear mamma, and that is exactly what I have said to him more than once. But you need not worry, for no one saw us. Let’s go to bed, darling, I’m dog-tired!”
Peter was thoroughly inconsequent about money and a great gambler; he told me one day in sorrow that his only chance of economising was to sell his horses and go to India to shoot big game, incidentally escaping his creditors.
When Peter went to India I was very unhappy, but to please my people I told them I would say good-bye and not write to him for a year, a promise which was faithfully kept.
While he was away, a young man of rank and fortune fell in love with me out hunting. He never proposed, he only declared himself. I liked him particularly, but his attention sat lightly on me; this rather nettled him and he told me one day riding home in the dark, that he was sure I must be in love with somebody else. I said that it did not at all follow and that, if he were wise he would stop talking about love and go and buy himself some good horses for Leicestershire, where I was going in a week to hunt with Lord Manners. We were staying together at Cholmondeley Castle, in Cheshire, with my beloved friend, Winifred Cholmondeley, [Footnote: The Marchioness of Cholmondeley.] then Lady Rocksavage. My new young man took my advice and went up to London, promising he would lend me “two of the best that money could buy” to take to Melton, where he proposed shortly to follow me.
When he arrived at Tattersalls there were several studs of well- known horses being sold: Jack Trotter’s, Sir William Eden’s and Lord Lonsdale’s. Among the latter was a famous hunter, called Jack Madden, which had once belonged to Peter Flower; and my friend determined he would buy it for me. Some one said to him:
“I don’t advise you to buy that horse, as you won’t be able to ride it!”
(The fellow who related this to me added, “As you know, Miss Tennant, this is the only certain way by which you can sell any horse.”)
Another man said: “I don’t agree with you, the horse is all right; when it belonged to Flower I saw Miss Margot going like a bird on it. …”
MY FRIEND: “Did Miss Tennant ride Flower’s horses?”
At this the other fellow said:
“Why, my dear man, where HAVE you lived! …”
Some months after I had ridden Jack Madden and my own horses over high Leicestershire, my friend came to see me and asked me to swear on my Bible oath that I would not give him away over a secret which he intended to tell me.
After I had taken my solemn oath he said: “Your friend Peter Flower in India was going to be put in the bankruptcy court and turned out of every club in London; so I went to Sam Lewis and paid his debt, but I don’t want him to know about it and he never need, unless you tell him.”
MARGOT: “What does he owe? And whom does he owe it to?”
MY FRIEND: “He owes ten thousand pounds, but I’m not at liberty to tell you who it’s to; he is a friend of mine and a very good fellow. I can assure you that he has waited longer than most people would for Flower to pay him and I think he’s done the right thing.”
MARGOT: “Is Peter Flower a friend of yours?”
MY FRIEND: “I don’t know him by sight and have never spoken to him in my life, but he’s the man you’re in love with and that is enough for me.”
. . . . . . .
When the year was up and Peter–for all I knew–was still in India, I had made up my mind that, come what might, I would never, under any circumstances, renew my relations with him.
That winter I was staying with the Manners, as usual, and finding myself late for a near meet cut across country. Larking is always a stupid thing to do; horses that have never put a foot wrong generally refuse the smallest fence and rather than upset them at the beginning of the day you end by going through the gate, which you had better have done at first.
I had a mare called Molly Bawn, given to me by my fiance, who was the finest timber-jumper in Leicestershire, and, seeing the people at the meet watching me as I approached, I could not resist, out of pure swagger, jumping an enormous gate. I said to myself how disgusted Peter would have been at my vulgarity! But at the same time it put me in good spirits. Something, however, made me turn round; I saw a man behind me, jumping the fence beside my gate; and there was Peter Flower! He was in tearing spirits and told me with eagerness how completely he had turned over a new leaf and never intended doing this, that or the other again, as far the most wonderful thing had happened to him that ever happened to any one.
“I’m under a lucky star, Margie! By heavens I am! And the joy of seeing you is SO GREAT that I won’t allude to the gate, or Molly Bawn, or you, or any thing ugly! Let us enjoy ourselves for once; and for God’s sake don’t scold me. Are you glad to see me? Let me look at you! Which do you love best, Molly Bawn or me? Don’t answer but listen.”
He then proceeded to tell me how his debts had been paid by Sam Lewis–the money-lender–through an unknown benefactor and how he had begged Lewis to tell who it was, but that he had refused, having taken his oath never to reveal the name. My heart beat and I said a remarkably stupid thing:
“How wonderful! But you’ll have to pay him back, Peter, won’t you?”
PETER: “Oh, indeed! Then perhaps you can tell me who it is …”
MARGOT: “How can I?”
PETER: “Do you know who it is?”
MARGOT: “I do not.”
I felt the cock ought to have crowed, but I said nothing; and Peter was so busy greeting his friends in the field that I prayed he had not observed my guilty face.
Some days after this there was a race meeting at Leicester. Lord Lonsdale took a special at Oakham for the occasion and the Manners, Peter and I all went to the races. When I walked into the paddock, I saw my new friend–the owner of Jack Madden–talking to the Prince of Wales. When we joined them, the Prince suggested that we should go and see Mrs. Langtry’s horse start, as it was a great rogue and difficult to mount.
As we approached the Langtry horse, the crowd made way for us and I found my friend next to me; on his other side was Peter Flower and then the Prince. The horse had his eyes bandaged and one of his forelegs was being held by a stable-boy. When the jockey was up and the bandage removed, it jumped into the air and gave an extended and violent buck. I was standing so near that I felt the draught of its kick on my hair. At this my friend gave a slight scream and, putting his arm round me, pulled me back towards him. A miss is as good as a mile, so after thanking him for his protection I chatted cheerfully to the Prince of Wales.
There is nothing so tiring as racing and we all sat in perfect silence going home in the special that evening.
Neither at dinner nor after had I any opportunity of speaking to Peter, but I observed a singularly impassive expression on his face. The next day–being Sunday–I asked him to go round the stables with me after church; he refused, so I went alone. After dinner I tried again to talk to him, but he would not answer; he did not look angry, but he appeared to be profoundly sad, which depressed me. He told Hoppy Manners he was not going to hunt that week as he feared he would have to be in London. My heart sank. We all went to our rooms early and Peter remained downstairs reading. As he never read in winter I knew there was something seriously wrong, so I went down in my tea-gown to see him. It was nearly midnight. The room was empty and we were alone. He never looked up.
MARGOT: “Peter, you’ve not spoken to me once since the races. What can have happened?”
PETER: “I would rather you left me, PLEASE. … Pray go back to your room.”
MARGOT (sitting on the sofa beside him): “Won’t you speak to me and tell me all about it?”
Peter put down his book, and looking at me steadily, said very slowly:
“I’d rather not speak to a liar!”
I stood up as if I had been shot and said:
“How dare you say such a thing!”
PETER: “You lied to me.”
MARGOT: “When?”
PETER: “You know perfectly well! And you are in love! You know you are. Will you deny it?”
“Oh! it’s this that worries you, is it?” said I sweetly. “What would you say if I told you I was NOT?”
PETER: “I would say you were lying again.”